With our summer classes drawn to a close we want to take the time to touch on the subject of bullying one last time. Previously we explored how to avoid bullying with your children, but now I’d like to talk about a subject most people like to avoid. Many don’t realize when they are bullying others, because they’ve done it so often. But with the epidemic in full effect, it is important to set the standard for youth today. Let’s explore.
As with children, adults can be awful bullies. Whether it’s during the work day and you’re cruel to a co-worker, or you’re out on the town and rude to a service industry worker, it’s easy to get caught up in a bad situation. Sometimes you feel like you need to let off some steam, talk about someone or treat them in a way that makes you feel better about yourself, But what effect does that have on the subject of your cruelty?
Many children get their traits from parents who either don’t realize that they bully others, or don’t care. It’s a circle that’s never-ending. Their parents bullied and intimidated peers and others in order to get through life, and so the child will grow up to do the same. Instead of continuing the trend, it’s important to stop and put yourself in the other person’s shoes and think for a moment how you would feel if they treated you in the same manner.
Everyone has a bad day. Whether it’s a personal crises, work related, or they just woke up on the wrong side of the bed, it happens. We’re only human. It’s important to note though that keeping your cool will ultimately make you a happier person. By avoiding the stress of getting angry or lashing out at another you will be able to collect yourself in a way that would have been harder to do while coming down from an angry rant.
The littlest things could relate into an act of bullying. Taunting friends while they are upset or conscious of a mistake, a mean comment on social media to a friend or stranger, or even secretly talking behind someone’s back (friend or foe) can all lead to unexpected repercussions in the long run. We’re not always aware that we’re bulling others, for some of us it just comes naturally. That’s a scary thought.
While it may seem like something out of a fairy tale, the world could find peace if we had more patience with one another. Taking the time to accept and get past another’s differences or personal beliefs will make the world a better place sooner than you know. Cultivating love where there is hate, kindness where there is cruelty, and acceptance where there is denial will go a long way. Setting the standard early, making ourselves better people will influence the next generation. Can you imagine if children were raised in a world without bullies?